A letter to: Taryn Brumfitt

Hi Taryn,

You don’t know me but I am one of the MANY women to have seen your movie Embrace and been massively inspired by it.

Thank you so much.

Thank you for the movie.

Thank you for being so honest, open, and brave. Brave for sharing your most confronting thoughts and fears, brave for allowing us to see the way that plastic surgeon dissected your body and described everything he thought needed fixing, brave for sharing your before and after photos on Facebook.

But most of all I think it shouldn’t take bravery for women to be proud of their bodies for all that they are capable of, and when you said that we women are not ornaments it was such a huge “fuck yes!!!” moment.

Thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you.

Right before I watched your movie I had signed up for a fitness program, after a week long beach holiday during which I felt really uncomfortable with how I looked and felt in swimmers. This new program has somewhat of a cult following and is all about looking good in a bikini, but I knew deep down that I needed to address my appalling lack of fitness more than I needed a bikini body. {I actually already HAVE a bikini body, you know: just put on a fucking bikini and hey presto: bikini body. I just wasn’t very happy with it.}

So for a week I pushed myself so hard, I sweated and walked and swam and lifted weights until I could not walk anymore. Literally, I was hobbling around like a really old person. A really pregnant old person. With a bad back. You get the picture. Anyway I felt really proud of myself that I was in so much discomfort, surely it meant that I was doing something right, it meant I was getting fit, right? I mean, all those before and after pictures on Instagram were inspiring me, right? Showing me what was possible, what could be achieved when you really worked at it. And for the very first time in my life I so wanted to work for it.

And then I saw your movie.

And while it didn’t in any way make me think that I didn’t need to be fitter or healthier, it did make me question why I had chosen such a gruelling program that was focused on pushing yourself really hard. Yes it would no doubt bring results, but as I pondered your message and thought about some of the comments I had heard in your movie, I began to think that maybe there was a way to get fitter and healthier that would still honour everything my body was capable of and had achieved, and was kinder and more enjoyable and less about that perfect bikini body.

I was expecting that with healthier food choices and all the moving I was now doing that the weight would start to come off too. In the past I’ve actually lost weight fairly easily when I’ve put my mind to it, and by “put my mind to it” I mean deprive deprive deprive. No carbs, sugar, fat, alcohol, caffeine, you name it. If all else fails I usually just don’t eat anything for a few days and watch that weight just fall right off. This time round I’ve lost one single kilogram in over two weeks and I’m not kidding myself, I know that I’m doing all the “right things”, and in a healthy way. And that’s where I have truly seen the difference in myself, the huge change that is all thanks to your movie and it’s inspiring and positive messages.

For the first time ever since I can remember I’m not even remotely fussed at the lack of weight being lost, and that’s huge for me. That voice in my head that usually panics because the numbers aren’t budging is nowhere to be heard. I don’t think it’s been this quiet since I was about ten years old.

Because this time I know that I’m getting fit despite what the scales say. I actually enjoy exercising every day. I also know that there may well be physical changes more obvious to other people than to myself. The tape measure tells me I’ve lost an inch off my waist. Above all I am being kind to my body for the first time in a really long time.

Finally Taryn, finally, my mind is getting healthy too.

Thank you doesn’t even begin to cover it, but again, thank you.

Thank you for encouraging every woman to find her own unique kind of self love and respect.

The sheer kindness that shines from your movie and the beauty in every woman featured in it made me weep. Why are we women so fucking hard on ourselves?

THANK YOU for reminding me that my body and mind deserve to be honoured.

And thank you for finally helping this forty-two year old mama of four understand just how awesome and powerful and strong and amazing her wrinkled stretchmarked saggy body actually is.




  1. I really need to see this movie! Everyone I know who has seen it says it is life changing.


    1. Yes, you should. It’s so positive and uplifting I’d recommend it to everything.


  2. Like I said over on Twitter I am so glad you’ve seen this! I feel like everyone should be shown this movie in high school, and then again on a yearly basis. I really need to grab the DVD and pop it on every 6-12 months


    1. So true. Could you imagine the impact on young girls and women before they start to get all the fucked up ideas instead? I need to get the book too. And thank you SO much for giving me the heads up. Xxc


      1. My pleasure! xxx
        I want to spread the word to everyone. Actually I’d love to have a screening and have Taryn attend – that’d be AWESOME!


        1. And it could be a fundraising type thing too, that would be so cool. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻


  3. […] Then I watched the documentary Embrace, and was so moved that I even wrote an open letter to it’s creator Taryn Brumfitt. […]


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